Ummu Habibah - Ramlah bt Abu Sufyan - Steadfast on her faith.
Ummul Habibah’s (RA) behaviour with Her Father. (Ramlah bt Abu Sufyan)
Ummul Mukminin Ummi Habibah RA was first married before to Ubaidullah bin Jahsh. She emigrated with her husband to Abyssinia. The husband became a Christian and died there. While she was still passing her days in Abyssinia as a widow, Nabi SAW sent his offer to marry her through king Negus. She accepted the offer and came to Madinah Munawwarah to live with Nabi SAW. During the period of peace between the Muslims and the idol worshippers of Makkah Mukarramah, her father Abu Sufyan (who was not yet a muslim) once came to Madinah Munawwarah for talks about strengthening the peace treaty. He went to see Ummi Habibah RA. As he was about to sit on the bedding in her room, she removed it from under him. He was surprised over her behavior and said:” Was the bedding unfit for me or I unfit for the bedding?"
She replied: "This bedding is for the pure and dear Nabi SAW, while you are an idolater and therefore unclean. How can I allow you to sit on this bedding?" Abu Sufyan was full of sorrow and said, "Since you left us, you have learned bad manners." The great respect that she had for Nabi SAW, would not allow her to let an unclean mushrik, even though he was her own father, to sit on Nabi's SAW bedding. Once she came to know from Nabi SAW about the virtues of twelve rakaats of Chasht. Since that time, she kept offering this Solah regularly.
Her father Abu Sufyan later accepted Islam. On the third day after his death, she sent for some perfume and used it saying: "I neither need nor like the perfume. I have heard Nabi SAW saying, 'A woman is not allowed to mourn the death of any person (except her husband's) for more than three days.
(The mourning period in the case of a husband's death is four months and ten days). I am using the perfume simply to show that I am not mourning the death of my father any longer."
When she was about to die, she sent for A`ishah RA and said: "We have been rivals in sharing the love of Nabi SAW, it is just possible that we might have hurt each other. I forgive you. Please forgive me too." A`ishah said: "I forgive you by all means. May Allah forgive you too."She replied: "O, A`ishah, you have made me very happy. May Allah also keep you happy." She also sent for Ummi Salamah RA and asked her forgiveness. The strain between two rival wives is natural and common. Ummi Habibah RA wanted to be forgiven by people before she appeared before Allah . Her respect and love for Nabi SAW can be judged from her behavior towards her own father.
Umm Habibah - Ramlah bint Abi Sufyan – Steadfast in her faith.